Tuesday, July 9th, 2024

Author Interview: Bob Eckstein

Bob Eckstein
Footnotes from the Most Fascinating Museums

LibraryThing is pleased to present our interview with illustrator, author and cartoonist Bob Eckstein, whose work has appeared in such publications as the New Yorker, New York Times, Reader’s Digest, Smithsonian Magazine, and Atlas Obscura, and who has been exhibited in the Cartoon Art Museum of San Francisco, Smithsonian Institute, The Cartoon Museum of London, and others. Eckstein’s The History of the Snowman was published in 2017, and addressed the significance of these icy creations, while his more recent 2022 The Complete Book of Cat Names (That Your Cat Won’t Answer To, Anyway), offered a humorous, cartoon-filled guide to naming our feline friends. His Footnotes from the World’s Greatest Bookstores: True Tales and Lost Moments from Book Buyers, Booksellers, and Book Lovers highlighted amazing bookshops from around the globe, and was a New York Times bestseller. A follow-up, Footnotes from the Most Fascinating Museums: Stories and Memorable Moments from People Who Love Museums, was published this past May by Princeton Architectural Press. Eckstein sat down with Abigail to answer some questions about his new book.

Done in the same style as your earlier exploration of bookstores, Footnotes from the Most Fascinating Museums profiles seventy-two North American museums. What made you turn to museums for your next project, and how did you select which ones to include? What made you choose to focus on North America, when the previous title was global?

A couple of things convinced me to do a museum book. I love art and I knew this would be a dream job. And it was. I never enjoyed doing a book more.

I have just decided to try to do more of what I love to do. I’ve said no to some book projects proposed to me. I also saw during COVID that museums were struggling (like so many things). Raising awareness for them really motivated me to get this project off the ground and really do a good job. Throughout the work I was thinking I had to convince my readers to go out and visit or revisit these important institutions.

That said, this book is more of a summer vacation bucket list. I wanted to give affordable suggestions for a family. Including exotic museums from Europe and around the world didn’t fit that criteria. I can’t afford to travel to museums around the world to do the book myself—budgets for books, I think for most everyone, have been shrinking.

There are over 37,000 museums in North America alone so focusing on just here was also the right choice, assuring I would give them the proper attention. I narrowed the choices down to the top 150 before I had to cut that number in half to fit in the book. I took into account each museum’s beauty, historical significance, its range of appeal, geographical and cultural diversity, and its role in the local and arts community, like educational programs and its preservation importance. I then choose the best stories from the hundreds I collected. It was a big project.

What makes museums so important? What role do you see them playing in our lives, and what do you want your readers to take away from your book, in terms of that role?

This is a question, the importance of art in society, that cannot be answered in a day let alone in a paragraph. Museums really are giant selfies. People love selfies and that’s what they are. It’s everything we’ve done on this planet, all our accomplishments and even our mistakes, collected in one place to assess.

Museums are constantly evolving and are different from when we were kids. This is something I tried to point out in the book. They are far more human. All museums create memories while educating your family. And it’s an activity that anyone can participate in. Museums go out of their way to appeal to all ages at once.

Tell us a little bit about the museums themselves. What different kinds of museums were included? Were there ones you discovered in the course of creating the book? Did you visit all of the museums profiled? Which are your favorites, and why?

I tried to include museums for people who don’t necessarily like museums or art. There’s outdoor gardens, car museums, a Spam museum, and a museum on just comedy. I even included the Museum of Bad Art.

My favorite museums keep changing depending on the day and my mood. There were so many great museums. I live next door to the tranquil Cloisters, the old Medieval castle. But there is nothing like bringing a kid for their first time to the American Museum of Natural History. I am planning to revisit The Massachusetts Museum of Contemporary Art as soon as my schedule allows. I was blown away by their collections. But it’s impossible to pick one as they are all always changing. Museums are more organic than people realize. My favorite museums are those I walk away from with a feeling of rejuvenation.

I went to as many as humanly possible. Some days I went to three in one day. With some others, helpers had to go for me. Some were museums I had been going to my whole life. There were a couple I discovered after being at another museum and discussing museums in general.

Cloisters American Museum of Natural History Massachusetts Museum of Contemporary Art

Your book doesn’t just focus on the museums themselves, it includes anecdotes and stories from museum curators, workers and visitors. What are some of the most interesting stories you heard, when it comes to the human side of museums?

Every museum has so many stories. There is the story in my book about where Michelle and Barack went on their first date. It was in connection to the same museum, The Art Institute of Chicago, that I share a story about a meltdown break-up in front of a painting and how a different painting, nearby, convinced Bill Murray not to commit suicide.

A personal favorite of mine is how a friend who is a New Yorker cartoonist devised a plan to sneak a painting of his onto the walls of the Metropolitan Museum of Art in New York City.

Your book includes 155 original illustrations. What are some of your favorites?

There’s an illustration in the book with my wife with her back to us sitting in front of a John Singer Sargent painting in the Museum of Fine Arts, Boston.

I had a great time at the James Bond exhibit at the Petersen Automobile Museum in Los Angeles, a museum I wasn’t planning on going to but then did, after figuring, “why, not?” when I was at the La Brea Tar Pits across the street. So glad I went.

Museum of Fine Arts, Boston James Bond exhibit, Petersen Automobile Museum La Brea Tar Pits

Tell us about your library. What’s on your own shelves?

We have at least 2,500 books. Aside from the multiple bookcases, there are piles of books everywhere, from sitting on chairs to display racks to piles next to the bed that force us to be mountain goats. My wife likes fiction and I prefer biographies and nonfiction. I have about 300 books on gag cartooning.

And a lot of books are sent to me from writers I’ve met or who want a blurb or review, and quite honestly will never read, as I don’t have any interest in vampires or space alien love stories.

What have you been reading lately, and what would you recommend to other readers?

Between cartooning, illustrating, public speaking, teaching and writing, I have little time for reading outside all the reading I need to do for research. Right now I’m reading “The Loveliest Home That Ever Was”: The Story of the Mark Twain House in Hartford in preparation for my lecture I’m giving there June 26th.

Labels: author interview, interview

Monday, July 1st, 2024

July 2024 Early Reviewers Batch Is Live!

Win free books from the July 2024 batch of Early Reviewer titles! We’ve got 180 books this month, and a grand total of 3,310 copies to give out. Which books are you hoping to snag this month? Come tell us on Talk.

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Once More from the TopThe Stranger at the WeddingThe Color of HomeThe Wishing Pool and Other StoriesTea with ElephantsCode Peking DuckI Hate Job Interviews: Stop Stressing. Start Performing. Get the Job You WantRethinking College: A Guide to Thriving Without a DegreeFriends with SecretsFrom SavageryThe Trial of Anna ThalbergA Token of LoveThe Dark RoadThe Rhino KeeperThe Thing about My UncleGeneration RetaliationThe Ballad of Falling RockThirty Seconds at a TimeThe Vanishing at Echo LakePinnacle: The Lost Paradise of RastaHow to Love a Forest: The Bittersweet Work of Tending a Changing WorldThe Chaos Clock: Tales of Cosmic AetherWhat I Saw in Heaven: The Incredible True Story of the Day I Died, Met Jesus, and Returned to Life a New PersonWhen Demons Surface: True Stories of Spiritual Warfare and What the Bible Says About Confronting the DarknessAt the Fall LineVoices Carry: A Story of Teaching, Transitions, & TruthsUSS Primis: The First StarshipChristmas at Sugar Plum ManorA Hope UnburiedOf Gold and ShadowsThe Christmas CatchAmeliaThe Geometries Of InnocenceSavagesBetween These Bones: A Collection of PoetryThe Climate Change Solution: Complete Mitigation ScienceBorn in Space: Unlocking DestinyNature SingsTrust the Whisper: How Answering Quiet Callings Inspires Extraordinary Stories of Ordinary GraceRebecoming: Come Out of Hiding to Live As Your God-Given Essential SelfTrunk Goes Thunk!: A Woodland Tale of OppositesNeighbourly MischiefThe America I Deserve: All My Amazing Plans for When I Become the Great American Dicktater For One Day-ish, Donald J. TrumpWhat We Sacrifice for MagicAwakenThe Darkest Night: A Terrifying Anthology of Winter Horror Stories by Bestselling Authors, Perfect for HalloweenThe Friendly FirecatThe Runaway RumblebearGrowing Up: An Inclusive Guide to Puberty and Your Changing BodyJohn the SkeletonOliver's TaleResilienceEthereal AwakeningThe Holographic New ClothesHer Shadows From The PastInto the UnknownThe Girl Who Dreamed: A Hong Kong Memoir of Triumph Against the OddsThe ArrangementThe 7 Habits of Highly Effective ReapersColor Me DeadMurderous CONsequencesJeep Transfer Cases: How to RebuildThe Legacy of the ElvesThe Nomadic Devil: The True Story of Israel Keyes America's Most Methodical Serial Killer Who Planted Murder Caches NationwideThe UnfamiliarEdge of the RainbowIt's a Game, Not a Formula: How to Succeed As a Scientist Working in the Private SectorLife after KafkaProven InnocenceThe Nonprofit Dilemma: Insights & Strategies for Purpose-Driven LeadersChristmas in Cranberry HarborBlood and MascaraBenji Zeb Is a Ravenous WerewolfInto the Goblin MarketNarwhal's Sweet ToothOn a Mushroom DayThe Portal KeeperStars in My CrownThe Island Before NoThere Are No Ants in This BookBuick V-8 Engines 1967-1980: How to RebuildOrganizational Behavior Essentials You Always Wanted to Know Second EditionThe Mummy of MayfairSequins, Scandals & Salchows: Figure Skating in the 1980sIron RoseTheir Unlikely ProtectorSex with JesusFeral Creatures of SuburbiaPilgrim: Volume 1Fundamental Mechanics of the Human Thinking MindWhish: PoemsThe Spy Prince of BasadeshThe Black Heart Of BudapestThe Titan CrownBe Unstoppable: No Excuses!Bleeding SeaVoices in RamahSandra Likes to Make a MessBecoming Like Jesus: How to Think and Live Like Jesus ChristThe Ordinary Chaos of Being Human: True Stories. Soul-Baring Moments. No Apologies.Fall and Recovery: Raising Children with Disabilities through Lessons Learned in DanceFoothills Fae Academy: Book ThreeA Chance For HappinessBeautiful and Terrible ThingsLincoln's ReturnThe Bench: A Parable About Life, Death, and BeyondAfterWorldEros RisingVaricose VeinsCauldron of WrathSilence In The BasementA Story About a Father & Son1600 Days of Moving On: Explorations of Love, Grief, and Acceptance through PoetryMy Sugar in Sugar LandBeach Rose PathMarks on the Wall: No Rules, No Rituals: Turn the Burden of Dos and Don'ts Into Signposts of Growth, Pathways to Freedom, and Expressions of LoveNabukkoHoofprints in Saguaro ShadowsInn DreamsThe New YorkerSoul Masters: The Hunting GroundsThe Consortium: GenesisThe Girl from Jersey CityThe Water SpiderInto the Lure of TimePilots Dawn 2024The Duke's Forbidden PassionFinding RickyAlarisThe Thief and the Nightingale: A Novel of Medieval SpainMission: UnknownClifford: A Short StoryExcavating the Buried HeartFlowerThe OthersMindful with Me: Connecting with Your Child Through Daily MindfulnessHis #1 FanAhab and Jezebel: A Match Made in HellThe Reluctant MessiahBloody Battle Boxer: Hip Hop NovelaRise of the PhoenixsubspaceLearn & Retain Spanish, Portuguese, Italian, and French with Spaced Repetition: 1,000+ Anki Notes with Comparative Grammar, Vocabulary, Common Phrases, and Audio PronunciationRooted and RememberedDomesticationDawning of Darkness: The Fall of Gods and KingsPieces of My HeartMaster of the Art of DetectionReaching for GraceEmma Madison, Master MeddlerHealthcare and the Mission of God: Finding Joy in the Crucible of MinistryGirl Meets Horse: An Easy Introduction to Horse Care and Riding for Kids and TweensDesperate MeasuresBlack DaysUnleashing Your Potenetial: How to be Successful... IN EVERYTHING!!A little book of PoemsCity Zoo: An Unfairy StoryThe Unboxing of a Black GirlMy Name Is NkechukwuọmaFor Those in the Midst of ItThe SavageRock Crush and RollThe Quest for Happiness: To Be Happy or Not to Be Happy. The Choice Is YoursNever What We Wanna Say: Poetries, Essays and StoriesThe Vale of SilenceWakers of the CryocryptSentience HazardThe DecedentGilded LiesEating Our Way Through American History: Pairing Historic Sites with Tasty Bites in and Around PhiladelphiaThe Genetic UniverseWorld's Abyss: A Journey of Exuviation and RebirthBesting the Beast and Other Fantasy TalesHereafter Lies: R.I.P.Goldfield ForestFinding the PastMavi, My Dearest: An Extraordinary Journey to MotherhoodCoco Lost in MiamiBuried Secrets of the Copper LocketI Know You Do

Thanks to all the publishers participating this month!

5 AM Publishing Akashic Books Alcove Press
Baker Books BDA Publishing Bellevue Literary Press
Bethany House BHC Press Blacksmith Books
Broadleaf Books CarTech Books Circling Rivers
City Owl Press Crooked Lane Books Freak Flag Publishing
Gnome Road Publishing Grey Sun Press Harbor Lane Books, LLC.
Harper Horizon Heliopolis Press Heller Verlag
Henry Holt and Company History Through Fiction IngramSpark
Jolly Witch Book House Magpie Publishers Milford Books LLC
NeoParadoxa Nosy Crow US PublishNation
Restless Books Revell Sattva Publishing Inc
Sea Crow Press Sunrise River Press True Crime Seven
Tundra Books Type Eighteen Books Vibrant Publishers
William Morrow Wise Media Group

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Thursday, June 27th, 2024

TinyCat’s June Library of the Month: The Indian Pueblo Cultural Center

I’ve been eagerly hoping for an interview with our current TinyCat’s Library of the Month since they joined us in 2018. It is my pleasure to feature the Indian Pueblo Cultural Center in Albuquerque, New Mexico, whose library is run by Archivist & Librarian Jonna C. Paden. Jonna was kind enough to field my questions this month and share more about their important work:

Who are you, and what is your mission—your “raison d’être”? 

The Library & Archives is part of the Indian Pueblo Cultural Center (IPCC) located in Albuquerque, New Mexico. The library is a special collections, non-lending research library dedicated to the culture, traditions, history and lives of the 19 Pueblo nations of New Mexico and the Ysleta del Sur in El Paso, Texas. We provide publications and information about Pueblo and Indigenous peoples and communities of North America. We aim to provide materials that reflect the voice and perspective of Pueblo and other Indigenous peoples about their history and contemporary activities. 

The IPCC Library & Archives holds over 8,500 books about the twenty Pueblo and other Indigenous nations. As a research library, we primarily hold nonfiction titles across a range of subjects. We have dissertations and theses by Pueblo scholars and about Pueblo topics. We have historical and contemporary materials, including books that are no longer in print. 

We are currently open to the public Tuesday through Friday from 9am to 5pm (MDT).

Tell us some interesting things about how your library supports the community.

The library supports Pueblo educators, researchers, students and community members within the city of Albuquerque, and nearby and distant Pueblo communities, IPCC staff and volunteers, and the general public. The library hosts the Pueblo Book Club quarterly and features a variety of Native authors or topics significant to Native American history. I also write a blog, Indigenous Connections and Collections, which features various Native American topics and is a great research resource. We are a welcoming place that supports research about Pueblo people and topics. If we don’t have the material, we can help connect to a library or place that does.

What are some of your favorite items in your collection?

 

I love the Children’s and Juvenile section! The fiction and non-fiction books are primarily Indigenous authored and illustrated with engaging stories and beautiful tribally representative Native artwork. Young Indigenous readers can see accurate portrayals of themselves and role models in these books.We also have unique materials not found elsewhere like reports and collected research materials donated by archaeologists and others. Donations like these are greatly appreciated! We also have a collection of newspaper articles dating from the 1980s to the mid-2000s which highlights Pueblo artists and writers and the activities and changes of Pueblo and tribal communities during this time.

What’s a particular challenge your library experiences?

Contrary to what some people might think, there is a lot of work done in libraries from cataloging to shelving, data entry to responding to research requests, and so on. Our challenge is staffing, so a catalog that makes processing books easier is very helpful.

What’s your favorite thing about TinyCat and is there anything you’d love to see implemented or developed?

TinyCat is very user friendly for anyone to catalog and is very affordable for small libraries. (I use it for my personal home library, too!) I love that an app has been added that populates data entry fields by scanning the book’s barcode. I also like that there are a variety of ways to customize and view the Take Inventory page depending on what details you want to see.

Thanks so much for the feedback, I’m glad to hear TinyCat is smart and easy for you to use!

Want to learn more about the IPCC? 

Visit their website at https://indianpueblo.org/library-archives/ and check out their full TinyCat collection here.


To read up on TinyCat’s previous Libraries of the Month, visit the TinyCat Post archive here.

Want to be considered for TinyCat’s Library of the Month? Send us a Tweet @TinyCat_lib or email Kristi at kristi@librarything.com.

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Monday, June 17th, 2024

Come Join the 2024 Pride Month Treasure Hunt!

It’s June, and that means that our annual Pride Month Treasure Hunt is back!

We’ve scattered a shower of rainbows around the site, and it’s up to you to try and find them all.

  • Decipher the clues and visit the corresponding LibraryThing pages to find a rainbow. Each clue points to a specific page right here on LibraryThing. Remember, they are not necessarily work pages!
  • If there’s a rainbow on a page, you’ll see a banner at the top of the page.
  • You have just under two weeks to find all the rainbows (until 11:59pm EDT, Sunday June 30th).
  • Come brag about your shower of rainbows (and get hints) on Talk.

Win prizes:

  • Any member who finds at least two rainbows will be awarded a rainbow badge. Badge ().
  • Members who find all 12 rainbows will be entered into a drawing for one of five sets of LibraryThing (or TinyCat) swag. We’ll announce winners at the end of the hunt.

P.S. Thanks to conceptDawg for the peacock illustration.

ConceptDawg has made all of our treasure hunt graphics in the last couple of years. We like them, and hope you do, too!

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Wednesday, June 5th, 2024

Author Interview: Joyce Maynard

Joyce Maynard

LibraryThing is pleased to present our interview with author Joyce Maynard, whose bestselling 1998 memoir, At Home in the World—a subject of controversy in some quarters due to its exposé of the author’s brief relationship with the reclusive J.D. Salinger—has been translated into sixteen languages. An earlier memoir, the 1973 Looking Back: A Chronicle of Growing Up Old in the Sixties, was Maynard’s book debut. She would go on to pen three other works of nonfiction and twelve novels. Two of her novels, To Die For (1992) and Labor Day (2009) have been made into films—the 1995 To Die For starring Nicole Kidman, and the 2013 Labor Day starring Josh Brolin and Kate Winslett. From 1984 to 1990, Maynard was also the author of the syndicated column Domestic Affairs, and she has contributed articles and reviews to numerous publications. Her 2021 novel, Count the Ways, described by Joyce Carol Oates as a “fearlessly candid, heartrendingly forthright examination of the joys and terrors of family life,” won the Grand Prix de Littérature Américaine (American Literature Grand Prize). How the Light Gets In, Maynard’s thirteenth novel, and the sequel to Count the Ways, is due out from William Morrow later on this month. She sat down with Abigail to answer some questions about her new book.

How the Light Gets In is a departure for you, in that it is the first sequel you have written and published. Did you always mean to write two books about your main character and her family, or did you find, upon finishing Count the Ways, that there was more to tell? Does writing a sequel differ from writing a stand-alone novel, and was there anything particularly challenging or enjoyable about it?

When I wrote Count the Ways, I never envisioned it as the first of two novels. I imagined, when I reached the last page of that novel, that I would have to say goodbye to the characters in that story. (This is always hard, by the way. My characters become so real to me, over the course of writing a novel, that when I reach the end, I miss them. Even the problematic ones.)

But after Count the Ways was published, I heard from so many readers who wanted to know what happened next. Many expressed concern—even anger—that the main character of Count the Ways, Eleanor, seemed to have spent her entire adult life sacrificing herself for everyone else and putting her own needs last. They wanted to know: When did it get to be Eleanor’s turn?

I thought long and hard about this. As a woman–exactly the same age as Eleanor, and one who has grappled with that same question—I wanted to see Eleanor reach a new stage in her life, as I have in mine, where she is finally able to ask the question “What do I want… for my own life?” And she is finally able to let go of feeling that her role in life is to look after everyone else.

I spent a whole year just thinking about what kind of next chapters I wanted to give to Eleanor. I didn’t begin to write How the Light Gets In until I had a clear sense of what would make a satisfying resolution for this woman I had come to know so well. Almost as well as I know myself.

Of course she encounters many challenges in the new novel. Some very grave. But her perspective has changed with the passage of time. She’s not trying to fix everybody’s problems any more. She knows she can’t do that. She’s made her peace with imperfection. That’s why I gave this new novel the title I did. It comes from a song by Leonard Cohen, with the line, “There is a crack, a crack in everything. That’s how the light gets in.”

This new story is about learning to embrace the messy, difficult, sometimes painful cracks in our lives. And finding beauty in them.

As for the challenges of writing a sequel: I wanted to make sure, as I wrote this book, that a reader would not have to have read Count the Ways to read and appreciate this one. (Of course I recommend that a reader begin with the earlier novel. But it’s definitely not a prerequisite for understanding this one.)

What was challenging: Keeping track of all those different characters—the members of Eleanor’s family, and others—over the passage of time. But I loved that too. I got to spend more time with some characters I love, chief among them Toby, Eleanor’s youngest son, brain injured at age 5. He’s in his late thirties when the new novel opens, and grows into his forties. I love Toby so much. I wanted good things for him. I wanted him to find love. It wasn’t easy, imagining where that might come from.

Between the two books, you cover some fifty years in the life of one family—a life played out against the backdrop of public events. In How the Light Gets In this includes climate change, the Covid-19 pandemic and the events of January 6th. What connection, if any, do these events have to the lives of your characters? Are they simply the backdrop against which more personal crises unfold, an influence on your characters and their choices, or perhaps some kind of parallel to individual experience?

To me, there was no way to write about the years from 2010 to 2024 without making reference to what was going on in our country at the time. I could no more set a novel in the Trump years—and their aftermath—than I could set a novel in France or Germany in the late 1930’s and early 40’s and not mention World War 2.

I write about relationships, families, what happens in kitchens and living rooms and bedrooms—and at the edge of a waterfall, or a small town bowling alley, or in a school where kids learn to be fearful that a kid with an AK 15 might walk into their classroom. In my mind, there is no way to separate what happens in those places, from what’s going on in our country and the world. I’m not getting on a soapbox when I write, offering my political opinions. I’m trying to portray life in the United States of America as ordinary people live it.

Your book has been described as a family saga, one that addresses “the new American family.” What does this mean to you? What distinguishes the new American family from the old, and what does your story say about the role of family in our lives?

When I was growing up—in a household of many secrets and troubles as well as much creative inspiration—I took my definition of “a happy family” from what I saw on television. Mother/ father, kids. Nobody worried about a father getting drunk, or the mother suffering from depression, or one of the kids addicted to drugs. No divorce. No money problems. No struggles with gender identity.

I carried that picture into my own adult life. When I was divorced from my children’s father, at age 35, I was viewed, the term for where I lived with my children was “a broken home.” At the time my marriage ended, I was supporting our family writing a syndicated newspaper column about raising children, being a parent. Almost half the newspapers who had been running that column chose to drop it, once I announced the divorce. “Joyce Maynard is no longer qualified to write about family life,” one editor at a major newspaper wrote to my newspaper syndicate.

Over the years, my definition of “family” has evolved considerably. So has our national perception, I think. A family can be two women, or two men, or a single parent and her children. Sometimes we make our own families, that have nothing to do with blood connection.

I still know myself to be a person who cares deeply and passionately about “family”. But I know now, there is no one picture of what constitutes a family. And more than one way to be part of “a happy family”. And no such thing as a perfectly happy family, either. What I strive for these days is to accept my flaws and failures, as I do those of others around me. Being part of a family requires compassion and forgiveness. Not perfection.

You have written two memoirs over the course of your career, and have spent time reflecting on the events of your own life. Did your personal life story provide any inspiration when writing about Eleanor and her family?

I want to make this very plain: Eleanor is not me. She’s a fictional character. But I’d be lying if I pretended that her story wasn’t hugely informed by my own experiences of parenthood, love, loss, divorce, and its aftermath. I’ve also been the beneficiary of a huge gift over the years, which has come from nearly thirty years I’ve spent hosting memoir workshops for women.

Hundreds of women—well over a thousand, in fact—have trusted me with their most intimate and often painful stories, over the years. Those are private. I don’t divulge what women tell me in my memoir workshops, unless they specifically grant me the right to do so. But I have learned as much about women’s lives in those workshops as the women have learned, about writing. I carry the stories of those women with me every day of my life. They are always with me when I write.

The figure of the mother is central to both of these books, even when she is missing from the family circle, or estranged from her children. What does your story have to say about the role of the mother? What does a mother owe to her children, and what does she owe to herself?

There’s a chapter in How the Light Gets In called “The Definition of a Good Mother”, in which Eleanor strives to answer the question, “what is a good mother?” And tackles the impossibility of ever being good enough. (In case you want to take a look, it’s on page 259 of my book. I’m pretty sure that when I travel around the country, giving readings and talking about this new novel of mine, I’ll read a few paragraphs from that chapter.)

I could say so much about this question, of what a mother owes her children, and what she owes herself. In many ways, I think this entire novel stands as my attempt to answer those two questions. What I’ll say here, to keep it simple, is that there may be no greater gift a mother can give her children than the model of a woman who—along with providing them loving care, nurturing and attention—also values and respects and cares for herself.

When a mother fails to do those things—when she sacrifices everything for her children—sooner or later she finds herself in Crazyland. (Read Count the Ways and How the Light Gets In and you’ll understand what I mean).

Tell us about your library. What’s on your own shelves?

Plenty of fiction of course. But also: Art books. Poetry. Children’s books. Books of classic photography. Books about US history. And my collection of the Sears Christmas Catalogue from around 1960 to 1969. Among other things…

What have you been reading lately, and what would you recommend to other readers?

In honor of Alice Munro, a writer I revered—and one whose work always instructs me—I am trying to reread as many of her short stories as I can this summer. (Last summer I did the same with the short stories of Raymond Carver and Andre Dubus II.)

Labels: author interview, interview